3 Keys To No Longer Be Ashamed
We are all born somewhere. The place I was born, Salt Lake City, Utah brought with it many interesting insights I overlooked for quite sometime.
Growing up in a neighborhood where the Mormon religion was prevalent, tight knit families were common and the majority of people were of European descent, my family and I didn’t really fit the mold.
Growing up, I recall an array of indirect discrimination throughout school due to a slightly different tint of skin, the fact that I lived with my grandparents and had no father in the picture, as well as the minimal finances my family had.
As I got older, I reflected back and noticed many of these early insights I had throughout my youth caused me to discount my experience, to dismiss my inherent gifts and push aside this incredible life I’ve been given.
I thought about this the other day and realized I’ve spent nearly 10 years working out these kinks in my consciousness. I don’t think people (parents and their children) fully understand the harm they cause by projecting limiting beliefs upon others.
I am grateful for this experience, though it was difficult at times. I now realize I have nothing to be ashamed of and more importantly, I have no right to cause another person to feel ashamed about the life they’ve been given.
I ask you, what causes you to be ashamed of your life?
What Causes Us To Be Ashamed
Have you ever thought about all the things that steal the joy out of your experience?
As we look back we see that we all experience a similar set of things that cause us to be ashamed of our lives.
Negative words from another reach deep within our heart and pierce our self image and, unfortunately, many of us grasp these words as if they are 100% true and live from these negative ideas.
Others compare themselves to another person which causes them to discount their unique path. Over time this steals peace and happiness out from within because we can never be anyone other than ourselves.
One of the biggest things that caused me to be ashamed was something I had no control over, the circumstances I was born into. As I look back now, I am so grateful for the obstacles and hurdles my family went through. Through them I learned the power of love, compassion and recognizing the light within.
I encourage you to identify what you are ashamed of in your life and reflect back and ask yourself, what caused me to be ashamed of this beautiful experience I have to live?
As you do this you’ll see there is one thing that keeps this shame alive within, your own self-talk.
Rising Above the Negative Self-Talk
Would you be able to remain ashamed of yourself, your life, the missed opportunities or any other negative set of events if you spoke to yourself in a positive and empowering way?
In my life I noticed I was the one who was giving these things I was ashamed of their power. I could have just as easily focused on all the beautiful and positive things that were taking place in my life.
To rise above the deflating thoughts, destructive words from others and disappointing experiences, we must begin to talk to ourselves in a peaceful way.
After all, it is our thoughts that make our life what it is.
The next time you feel upset, depressed, ashamed, or any other set of negative emotions, I encourage you to begin speaking to yourself in an uplifting and encouraging way.
The more you do this, the less you’ll find negative, deflating thoughts within you.
Remember, you give your life its meaning, make it positive.
3 Keys To No Longer Be Ashamed
#1 – You Are A Unique Being – You are one of a kind. Throughout the entirety of the Universe, there will never be another person like you. Next time you feel ashamed, I encourage you to bring into your mind all that has taken place to provide you with your life. It becomes extremely difficult to feel ashamed if we fully recognize who and what we are. Be grateful for you.
#2 – Curse of Comparison – Nobody’s path is more important or valuable than your own. Never discount your life only to highlight another persons. While we can always learn from other people, we should never diminish ourselves through holding another person in higher regard. To avoid the curse of comparison, count the innumerable blessings and things that are going right each day.
#3 – See With the Inner Eyes – When you move throughout your day, look with inner eyes. I encourage you to see the unity you share with everyone and everything. When we look with our inner eyes we see all is empowered by One Source, One Power, One Essence that gives life to all.
Be Kind
The final thing necessary to ridding yourself of shame is to ensure you never make people feel ashamed of who they are. I encourage you to see in everyone the fullness and beauty which dwells within them. While you may not agree with how they live their life, you can always see the light that dwells within.
As you do this, you’ll empower yourself and uplift the world around you at the same time.
Peace
Happiness
Compassion
Respect
Jeffon Seely